So we moved. And adjusted. We have worked out a schedule that works for us so far. We split the week. I have her half the week and he has her half the week. There was about a 2 week period where she had a tough time with it but we made it through it and she seems pretty well adjusted. We kept it out of the courts and have an agreement. We are on good terms. We get along for the most part. There has really only been one point that has caused any drama for us.
He is dating someone. And he is bringing her around my kid.
He has been seeing a girl for several months and has decided that it is okay to bring my daughter around her. I wish I could say that I was mature and looked at this as another loving adult that my daughter will have to turn to but in reality I am not at all comfortable with it. First off, I know the girl. I went to high school with her and I never liked her. She doesn't have any kids and I was told (by him) that she believes the best part about having kids around is sending them home. Not really winning my approval.
But more than that is the fact that my kid really likes her. She is at an age where she really likes everyone who is nice to her and so she really likes this girl which is somehow threatening to me. I know that I am Mom and I will always be number 1 but I can't help but to feel bad about her cozying up to this other woman. One day a few weeks ago, Lila told me that this girl was over and it was bedtime so she did bedtime which entails a story and laying down with Lila for a few minutes to talk about the day. How could I not feel threatened by this kind of intimacy?
I don't feel like this is about him and me. I don't wish he wasn't seeing her or anything like that. I just wish that he didn't feel the need to introduce my kid to her so soon. I am just not ready for that. I am not ready to hear my kid asking me if this girl is going to be her "new mommy" (which she did ask me). I am not ready for her to have a step mom. And not this woman. Anyone but her. Anyone but someone who I know doesn't really like kids all that much.