Yesterday I was at a family barbeque (and I won't even get into the thrilling experience that I had) and was talking to my aunt, whose first grandchild has just turned one. She and her son were discussing the bottle and the aunt was APPALLED at the idea that he would even THINK of taking the bottle away from her at a mere 1 year old. She defended her stance saying that the pediatrician said "15 months at the latest for a bottle, 18 months for a pacifier." She acted like it was flat-out child abuse to even consider depriving a kid of a ba-ba so "young".
|"Once you pop you can't stop," says Grandma.|
This is not the first time I have encountered this kind of outrage from an older woman in my family. My mother completely lost her shit when I suggested that Lila was not supposed to have a bottle to go to sleep since that is what parents had done for 50 years previous. She told me that this was basically the cause of all the problems I had with Lila's infancy and that if I just gave in all those problems would disappear.
I finally DID give in. And guess what, a year later when Lila was 2 and still wanting a bottle to go to sleep my mother acted like I was talking about murder when I suggested that it was time to stop. Even though the doctor had told me to do it a year before. Even though every parenting book ON EARTH says that they shouldn't have a bottle to go to sleep, my mother thought it was simply cruel.
Believe me when I say that it was one of the worst transitions I have ever had to make. Lila was never a good sleeper to begin with and this just made her worse.
All that being said, why do these women think that we modern mothers are so mean and cruel for trying to do exactly what all the pros tell us we need to do? Are they offended that their way may have been wrong? Or is it actually mean to take a comfort item from a baby? Are we no good at going with our guts or is it just a matter of them trying to keep the babies as babies for as long as possible?
What do you guys think?